This brief resource list is aimed at adults who think they might be autistic, are newly-diagnosed, or are looking to find new ways to connect to their community – and it’s skewed towards women. It’s idiosyncratic and by no means exhaustive, but it’ll give you a good start. Here, you’ll find positive, honest accounts of autism, told from the inside as much as possible.

Note: This is not intended to constitute or replace medical advice, should you need it. I deliberately don’t include links to tests here, and I don’t offer advice on diagnosis. These things fall outside my remit. 


What is Autism?

The National Autistic Society’s brief guide.

So What Exactly Is Autism?

Damian Milton’s survey of the most recent research for the Autism Education Trust.

What You See Is Not What You Get

Writing in Standard Issue, Sarah Hendrickx nails the experience of being an autistic woman.

Asperger’s in Women / Symptoms of Asperger’s Syndrome

These posts on Life on the Spectrum rang so many bells from me when I was first figuring out my own diagnosis.

Females and Asperger’s: A Checklist

Samantha Craft’s very useful list of attributes in female autistics.

I Don’t Have Autism. I’m Autistic

Brilliant blog post by Madeleine Ryan on the language of autism and identity.

Get Networked In

Sonia Boué writes about the problems of networking for autistic people.

I’m Not Just Socially Awkward

Rhi writes about the processes that lie beneath perceptions of social awkwardness.

The Autistic View of the World is Not the Neurotypical Cliché

My own article in Aeon Magazine about society’s slanted view of autism.

My Tinyletter Archives

A collection of my newsletters about my autistic life.


I’ve been grateful to find a community of people on Twitter who have taught me everything I know.

Here’s a Twitter List of my favourites.

You could also browse and use the #ActuallyAutistic hashtag (how to follow a hashtag on Twitter).


The Electricity of Every Living Thing is my memoir of the year I learned I was autistic. It’s available from all good bookstores  (readers outside the UK should try Amazon).

Camouflage by Dr Sarah Bargiela

Neurotribes by Steve Silberman

In a Different Key by John Donvan and Caren Zucker

Odd Girl Out by Laura James

Aspergirls by Rudy Simone

Women and Girls with Autism Spectrum Disorder by Sarah Hendrickx

The State of Grace by Rachael Lucas – a YA novel about the experience of being an autistic teenager

My Stuff

You can find me on Twitter (far too often), Instagram (once a day) and Facebook (neglectfully). Instead of a blog, I have a newsletter, which I try to send out once a fortnight if I can.